If You Knew How Much It Would Hurt When Your Pet Died Would You Still Want Them?

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The pain we feel from the loss of a beloved pet can be overwhelming. Few experiences in our lives devastate us as much as when we have to say our final goodbyes.
But what if you knew before you got your pet how badly you would grieve?
Would you still want your pets to be a part of your life?
Would you be willing to go through with it knowing how painful it would be to say goodbye?

Yes or no?

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Karen is an award-winning animal communicator and best-selling author who specializes in pet loss and the afterlife. She has documented her journey with her heartwarming and inspirational books, The Pet I Can’t Forget, The Amazing Afterlife of Animals and Hear All Creatures.
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  1. Ronald Sohler says:

    My grief would be short since I will be with them eventually anyway.

  2. Kenya says:

    Yes I would want my beloved Maya again and again. I wouldn’t think twice to have another opportunity to hold her in my arms again.

  3. Laurence Victor says:

    Yes, I would in a heartbeat
    They need our love and caring as much as we need them. The memories of them when alive are what helps us go through life when they leave us.

  4. Joanne Ingrassia says:

    I will always welcome more animals, even as I grieve those who have passed.

  5. Diane Douglas says:

    Hi Karen,
    Yes, I would definitely do it all again and have my little Gracie in my life!! I had 14 wonderful years with her. The last 6-1/2 months have really been so incredibly hard though. Oddly enough, I was thinking about you so much today! One of these days very soon, I’m going to call you for another reading. I hope you are doing well! xoxo Diane

  6. Roberta Dueser says:

    Yes, I would do it again. The love and joy they brought are worth it.

  7. Ellen S Leventhal says:

    Yes, absolutely.
    Loving is a choice and love is a gift. We risk when we love, knowing that heartache may come. The cost may be high, but unshakably worth it

  8. Danielle Turtainen says:

    YES! Although this pain is more than I have ever experienced, I know that Argyle and I needed that time we had to learn and grow. He taught me to be aware of my anxiety levels and how to not get so worked up over the little things. He also taught me how to pay attention to what he was saying. How to really listen to what he was telling me about what he was experiencing, needing, wanting. I look forward to our next adventure!

  9. Megan Luong says:

    I would still want my pet in a heartbeat despite the fact that when she died, an important part of myself died with her. My love for her knows no bound and we are forever tied. No amount of time will erase my love for her.

  10. Judy D. says:

    Definitely would have all my beloved pets in my life (3 horses,4 dogs,and 9 cats…..They all brought me such unconditional love and mostly great times, with a lot of life lessons thrown in 🙂 …… Can hardly wait, till we are all reunited again someday and everybody will be healthy and vibrant.
    I truly believe, we all need animals as much as they need us, to enrich our lives while here on earth.

  11. Nadine Custode says:

    My first girl has been gone now for 8 years and it’s still very painful, but we have Daisy now and she is 8 years now, I do believe that my first girl came back as Daisy, because of all the things that she does!!!!

  12. Samdra Fenstermacher says:

    Yes, because I love them and they love me. I will always be there for my pet as they are always there for me. It really hurts when they go but after reading your book it makes me see things differently. I still cry and hurt but I know they are good and always with me just like our human loved ones are always there.

  13. Mary Beth Dennis says:

    Absolutely yes! All love comes with pain , and much more with humans! A pet will never intentionally cause you pain or even unintentionally through selfishness ….. it’s just not in them.
    The pain with them is only when we see them suffering or when we grieve their loss. The lifetime of unconditional love is so very worth the amount of heartache in comparison.

  14. Deborah Tibbetts-Tumiel says:

    Yes, I would ! They need love & so do I & I think that is their purpose to show people all the sides of what real Love feels like & for some humans, that is the only love they might understand or feel before they have a pet.

  15. Hi Karen,
    Yes, I would definitely want a pet in my life regardless of the grief I would feel in losing them. What fun would life be if we always ran away from the opportunity to love because of the fear of losing them. Also, I don’t believe we ever lose someone that we truly love. They live on in another dimension and are right with us as we have a loving thought about them. The love and companionship of a loyal pet is always worth any grief of losing them.

  16. Eddie Adkins says:

    Yes, definitely!

  17. Daphne says:

    I can’t imagine life without my pet family, definitely yes.

  18. Maria D. says:

    Yes, and I will never get tired of loving and taking care of our pets.

  19. Connie says:

    Yes! we all leave, sooner or later!!hope to encounter them again or maybe already here in my new puppy!

  20. Kathy Kergaravat says:

    The amount of love, laughter and joy that they bring to everyday life makes it all worthwhile. Losing them is hard, but never having had the time with them would be such a huge hole in your heart and your life!

  21. Brenda says:

    Yes, I hate for my baby animals to suffer
    I cry for days if I lose them, but know they can’t hurt any more & happy again.

  22. Linda says:

    Hi Karen!
    It is so, so hard to say goodbye to a cherished pet, especially one who you feel is a “soul” pet. Also heartbreaking to see your pet’s health slowly decline and become a shadow of themselves. It’s during these times I feel like I can’t do it again…it was/is devastating some days. But on the other hand, remembering the immense joy, laughter, companionship and wonderful times spent with them makes me think I’d open my heart to loving another fur baby family member.
    It has helped immensely speaking with you, Karen. I know now that earth is not the end all/be all for animals I was taught in school. I’m so comforted by that.

  23. Debbie says:

    Yes. I miss all of the animals I have shared my home with. Sometimes I have to take a break while I grieve, but eventually a new one arrives to refill my heart.
    And I know my dead Roxie comes to me and even channels herself thru my current dog.

  24. Kathy Ream says:

    Yes — I know the pain of loss but the joy that a pet contributes to life, is amazing.

  25. Nancy Mazzoni says:

    I wouldn’t give up our time together and what they taught me for anything!! It might have to do with the circumstances-we lost everything we ever had, including Precious and Spicey, in the Tubbs Fire on October 9th, 2017.

  26. Jamie Hogan says:

    I don’t know how I would get through life without having pets. So yes, as devastating as it has been to lose them, I will never regret one moment of their lives with me….such a blessing!

  27. Clif Banner says:

    Yes, most certainly. First, based on your talk with Commander Cobra–I now know they are always with us, but, even so, love is limitless, and grief is temporary–usually replaced by the happy memories of unconditional love a pet or animal offers.

  28. Charles Smarr says:

    Yes! The pain goes away but the love lingers!

  29. In a heart beat. I lost her almost 2 years ago and I’m still grieving.

  30. Absolutely. I live with the pain of the passing of all my animals, especially the dogs and cats. I want to feel that ache, if it makes sense. The pain is surpassed in the love remembered and still with me, my wife, and our family. Karen’s work explains a lot of what I see and feel, remember when I was young. I fully understand why the hurt is so much that you cannot go through it again. Karen was just on my radio show, again, and again an outstanding joy to share some time with her. https://kgraradio.com/task-force-gryphon/

  31. Tanya LaCosse says:

    Without question. Lucy was a wonderful gift from God and gave me unconditional love and joy. She was always there for me no matter what was happening in my life. I just wish I had known how to help her more at the end. I thank you Karen for helping me believe that she did pass to another place and that I will hopefully be reunited with her some day.

  32. norbert - n3 says:

    YES, no doubt about it. Even more: independend of the circumstances I might be in, good or bad. As far as the true friendship to an animal is concerned, and what it gives to both of us circumstances do not matter, not realy. I just need to be tougher, we need to be. It just makes us to stay even closer, more trustfull to each other, more responsive, and to listen to the friend more carefully. They are all very welcome, any time, from single to all of them at once. We surely will find a way to get along fine, as we already did.
    Friends, I am waiting for you. Give me a hint, a sign of where you are and I will come to pick you up. Or just knock on the door, ring the bell, look though the window, or wait to see me on the portico/veranda. I am looking forward to meeting you.

  33. Jeff N says:

    Without hesitation YES. The joy they brought us far outweighs any amount of grief

  34. Judy B says:

    Let me put it this way “Would you not have children if you thought they would die before you did?”
    Pets are also our children, they are family. Yes, I would go through the grieving and pain process again
    and again. They bring so much love and joy to us. We are on our third Schnauzer and I hope we will
    all be together again in our afterlife.

  35. Yes, without a doubt.I cherish the great times we had together,and they taught me alot about life, they were my life. After my first
    boy passed in 08, he and Karen showed me something that I would never have believed until I experienced it myself, animal communication
    with my boy, since then I have had two more pass, one in 2015 and 2017.I look forward to our sessions, which is how I cope with their
    passing and I know we will be together someday and I am looking forward to that day (FOR ETERNITY)

  36. Frank J Grine says:

    Yes I would without a doubt. After my first boy passed in ’08 he and Karen showed me something that I never knew existed, animal
    communication. I have great memories of my boys, two more passed, one in 2015 and the other in 2017 and they taught me a lot about life,
    they were my life. The sessions I have with my boys help me cope with their passing and I look forward to be with them all someday and
    it will be for eternity!!

  37. Jim says:

    I believe they add so much to your life. It turns out we loose when they pass but without them you would have lost so much more. They leave a hole that is never filled

  38. Kerry Robinson says:

    I went 15 years without getting another pet because of the pain of losing them… eventually though, the years of love you gain outweighs the pain of the loss.

  39. Shannon says:

    Without a doubt! At least I would know he was safe with me rather than becoming a stray like he would have been before I rescued him!

  40. Hope says:

    Yes 100% without a doubt. The pain of losing them is very hard, but a life without them at all is missing a big piece. The days of joy and love they bring outweigh the painful days of missing them.

  41. Katie Marcucci says:

    Yes. Maybe this is a strange belief, but my Poppy sent my Koda to me. Without Poppy’s transition I never would have had Koda and I have had so many confirmations that Poppy made a way for Koda in order to 100% change Koda’s life by sending her to me. Koda had so much in common with Poppy,too much to describe here but I never mistook they are two different souls and beings in their own right. The love and devotion and joy, happiness, contentment, and peace each brought me in both of their own ways was amazing. I would do every moment again. Maybe someday they will come back to me in this life in another body, but I KNOW they will be with me in the next. What a welcome that will be.

  42. Lisa says:

    The loss of a furry family member is a profound loss like no other. Our love is so strong between us, so how could the loss I feel not be just as strong if not stronger? I need to have animals in my life even though the pain of them leaving will always be utter devastation, my need for their love and companionship in my life will always outweigh the shredding of my heart when they leave. Every time I’m about to lose one I tell them to please go be with my grandma, that she will look after them & love them until it is my time to be with them all again.❤

    • Karen Anderson says:

      It is a loss that runs so deep. Our lives are so much richer because of their infinite love.

  43. Susan says:

    100% yes. The love and laughter and wonderful memories far outweigh the grief.

  44. Debbie Rendek says:

    As painful as it was to watch my dwarf bunny pass away in my arms, I would say , yes. The joy she brought to our lives was amazing! She was a loving, energetic and playful little girl. She followed us around, jumped up on the bed and cuddled with us at night and in the morning as we drank our coffee and sat between us when we watched TV. She had full run of the house when we were home, and loved to explore. She would run on the tile and skid around the corners. I can’t imagine not ever having had her in my life. Her death has led me on the spiritual path that I am on, and believe she helped me to connect with Karen. Her life brought us tranquility and valuing the simple things in life. I miss her so much!

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Such a beautiful life together. So many wonderful memories. It is amazing how someone so small can have such a mighty impact on us! Thanks for sharing, Debbie…I am honored to be a part of your journey.

  45. Wilma Riddell says:

    I would definitely go through the hurt and pain again knowing that I would see their beautiful eyes and hold them again in my arms. How I long for their touch and the precious moments we spent together. These moments are priceless and I would give anything to them again!

    • Karen Anderson says:

      I agree, Wilma! I would go through the pain again. It is worth every moment for the joy, love, and richness they give us.

  46. Clare Fitzgerald says:

    Yes would definitely do again! With more hugs treats and car rides! The joy of having your best friend outweighs the pain .

  47. Nancy says:

    Absolutely yes! My beautiful Beloved Brownie gave me the best 12 years of my life. Brownie and I had such a strong connection like I have never felt before. The best day of my life is when Brownie rescued me! I would not trade that for anything in the world!

  48. Mary says:

    Yes, Yes, Yes !
    My Rocco was so much more than just a dog. We had and will always have a true heart connection. He was a great teacher for me in so many ways . Beyond blessed for our time together. The pure joy and unconditional love he brought into my life.

  49. Renee says:

    Absolutely! Zoe was one of the brightest lights in my life and she was worth every moment we spent together. Unconditional love is rare and a blessing when you receive it. Knowing she is always by my side, eases my pain and knowing we will be together when the time is right, keeps me focused on staying positive for her, and for me.

    • Karen Anderson says:

      I’m so glad to hear that! Me too! We are so lucky aren’t we to have them in our lives. Yes, it is painful but I agree I would do it all over again!

  50. Carrie says:

    That is a loaded question! At first I thought I would need to think about it for a while. Then after seeing lovely memories of my life with Lexi, it was easy to answer. YES! I can’t imagine her not being a part of me. Its hard to remember life before she came to me. Even though the grief is all encompassing, unbearable at times, I would not give that life with her away for anything in the world. For she is my heart dog. Forever and always. ❤

    • Karen Anderson says:

      It is a loaded question and those are the ones that make us dig deep down inside. Our lives are so much richer when we have a companion by our side. As difficult as it is to lose them it is worth it.

  51. Rhian says:

    Well, after Paddie transitioned I said no I’m done… its too painful!! But he literally sent me another pup who we love dearly he shows me he’s with her regularly and now we have two, even though my heart still grieves for him I’m so blessed to know he’s still here with us so my answer is yes .My home will always be a home with dogs xx

    • Karen Anderson says:

      I am so sorry, Rhian, you two are so bonded I am not surprised he sent you someone new to love. It is heartbreaking and I am so happy you have love in your home again. It helps me heal when I lose one of my own. I have others here to love and adore. Sending big hugs.

  52. Cyd O'Neill says:

    Yes, I absolutely would! My precious Mel gave me so much joy and love. He was there for me through all the good times and bad. He was my best buddy. We did everything and went everywhere together. I would give anything to have another lifetime with him. My previous boy was with me for 18 years!

    • Karen Anderson says:

      I agree! I would too! It is still worth the pain of losing them. I’m so glad you have your sweet Mel…and so glad he has you. Eighteen years…wow…a lifetime of memories. Sending love and healing

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