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I received this question from Robin:
“My sweet dog, Trinity, died the morning of April 9, 2024. She truly owned my heart, and even though it’s been over a year, I am still very lost without her. I miss her terribly.
I am fighting cancer and have given up the fight since she passed away. I just want to be with her again so badly!! I still cry every day and would love to kiss her beautiful nose again and tell her (like I always did) how much I love her.
How do I move on because my heart is shattered?”
MY ANSWER:
I am so sorry for your loss. There are few words to ease your pain. The journey through grief is deeply painful, overwhelming, and can also be very lonely. My heart breaks for you.
There are a few recommendations as you move forward on your journey. What may help some may not be beneficial to you. These are suggestions that help most who are struggling with a loss:
1. Write a loving letter to your companion. Tell her everything you are feeling. Read it out loud, or quietly in your mind to them. She will hear your words and likely comfort you.
2. Honor her life: Make their life more important than their death. Focusing only on the day they died or how they died doesn’t serve either of you. That moment does not define her. If she was your best friend, then be a best friend to someone else.
3. Adopt or foster another pet
4. Volunteer at a local shelter or sanctuary like mine. Donate in honor of Trinity.
5. Plant a tree in her honor, create a memorial, or a piece of art that reflects her.
6. Book an afterlife session with one of my trusted colleagues on the BOOK A SESSION page. Just one afterlife message can be incredibly healing.
7. Read my books, watch my podcasts, follow my posts, and learn animal communication with my online course. This keeps your connection strong and opens a whole new world to you.
8. Take the best care of yourself in honor of Trinity. Don’t give up your fight. Focus on your healing and full recovery in all the best ways, knowing Trinity will be right by your side and wants you to live as full a life as possible.
9. Dr Joe Dispenza has many YouTube videos on how to release pain, fear, blame, etc. It takes effort and mindfulness but anyone can do this.
The choice is yours every day. Only you can take inspired action and do what feels right by honoring Trinity’s life.
If you have a GENERAL QUESTION, post it in the comments below or email to karen@karenanderson.net with GENERAL QUESTION in Subject Line
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Karen is an award-winning animal communicator and best-selling author who specializes in pet loss and the afterlife. She has documented her journey with her heartwarming and inspirational books, The Pet I Can’t Forget, The Amazing Afterlife of Animals and Hear All Creatures.
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Karen is the CEO and founder of Painted Rain Ranch Animal Sanctuary a non-profit charity that serves as a final refuge for elderly, special needs, and abandoned companion animals. Karen saves the pets no one else wants on her 30-acre farm in the Inland Pacific Northwest. Proceeds from Karen’s books and coaching benefit the animals at the sanctuary.
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10 Comments
Karen, I just had an afterlife session with Sunny. She was amazing. The messages were so accurate I could feel my sweet boy, Benji, talking to me through her. What a gift she has. Super sweet and talented lady. God bless you both
I am so sorry for your loss. It is utterly devastating to say goodbye. I’m so grateful to know that your session with Sunny helped eased your pain. She is super talented and all of us at the sanctuary thank you for your support. May God bless you and your loved ones too.
There is no way I can thank you for helping me through the hell I’ve been living in. I have followed your steps in this post and have most completed. This doesn’t bring my beautiful Serengeti back but I can feel and sense her with me now. I am focused on being present and all the joy she brought into my life. Thank you so much
I’m so sorry for your loss. There are few words to ease your pain so I send my heartfelt condolences to you. I’m so glad that this post has helped you move forward. Serengeti will always be with you.
My springer spaniel, Turkey boy died last month and I haven’t been able to breathe. I feel completely lost and dead without him. You are an angel for offering so much help. I will do as many of these things as I can but I still break down every minute of every day missing him. I hope he is happy and forgives me. I did all I could to save him.
I am truly sorry for your loss. It takes our breath away to say goodbye to someone we love so much. My heart breaks for you. I am honored to share everything I have learned from the animals with you. If it eases just one moment of your day that is a step in the right direction. Be gentle with your progress. Broken hearts don’t adjust to loss very fast. Turkey boy knows you did your best and will never blame you and you do not need to ask forgiveness for what happened. My book, The Pet I Can’t Forget goes into greater detail about this very topic. We are the only ones who judge us…the animals never do.
Your advice has helped me. I am so broken I can only listen to Dr. Joe right now but that is making a big difference. My horse Silver just died and I feel totally lost. I found you and ordered your books. I need him with me I can’t do this without him.
Dr Joe has truly helped me when I was completely shut down. All you have to do is listen…and grief makes us incapable of doing anything so I listened. I’m glad he helped you. I am so sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you. Silver will always be with you as there is nowhere else he would rather be.
Karen, We are struggling as our beautiful Bella has cancer and after testing and procedures, she is not responding…and we will have to euthanize.
We have read all of your books and want her to understand what is happening. We also want to hear Bella’s feelings or thoughts. The pain is unbearable and we need to do this because of her condition so we booked with one of your colleagues. I don’t know what we were expecting but we got WAY more than we could have imagined. What an absolute GIFT you have given us to hear her words through a session with your recommended communicators. We actually had two readings and both were OUTSTANDING.
Thank you for what you do and the peace and understanding you bring.
I am so very sorry for your loss. Bella likely guided you my way. They know who can help ease our journey after a loss. I’m truly honored and so happy to hear your two sessions brought peace and comfort. My colleagues are the best and so gifted. I thank you for all your kind words. What a joy for me to hear this.