Does the Pain from a Loss Ever End?

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When Does the Pain End After a Loss?

Just the other day a client asked me, “Karen, when does the pain end?” 
I thought about it for a moment and realized I did not have an answer.
The only thought that came to my mind was the word, “NEVER”.
After a loss, our hearts are completely broken.
Shattered into a million pieces like shards of glass.

Those shattered pieces have very sharp edges and sometimes the simple act of breathing is hard.
We are never the same as those shattered pieces don’t ever fit back together the way they were.

Thinking back to my first significant loss…

I thought about the first time I lost a beloved pet many decades ago.
I still feel the loss in my heart but the sharpness of the pain has softened over time.
Yes, I still miss my childhood dog, Prince. But now the memories of him joyfully flutter around in my mind and bring a smile to my face.
Compared to the grief I feel right now after just losing one of my senior kitties, Lilly, there is a huge difference in the level of pain.

Losing Lilly has shattered my heart once again.
I made the agonizing decision to help her transition peacefully before she was in crisis.

We spent almost 18 beautiful years together.
But will the pain ever end?

Just as the rhythmic waves of the ocean soften the sharp edges of glass in the sea, our souls gently soften the shattered pieces of our hearts over time.
I don’t know about you but the older I get the harder it is to say goodbye to my precious angels.
In honor of my crazy Lilly, I will hold you and your angels in a sacred space for healing.

We hurt so much because we love them so much.

But there is always the hope that your pain will soften over time.

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Karen is an award-winning animal communicator and best-selling author who specializes in pet loss and the afterlife. She has documented her journey with her heartwarming and inspirational books, The Pet I Can’t Forget, The Amazing Afterlife of Animals and Hear All Creatures.
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Karen is the CEO and founder of Painted Rain Ranch Animal Sanctuary a non-profit charity that serves as a final refuge for elderly, special needs, and abandoned companion animals. Karen saves the pets no one else wants on her 30-acre farm in the Inland Pacific Northwest. Proceeds from Karen’s books and coaching benefit the animals at the sanctuary.
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  1. Angela says:

    I am sorry for your loss of Lilly. You correct, the pain never goes away. It softens over time, but we also learn to live with that little hole in our hearts.

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you so much, Angela, I appreciate your kindness. We do find our new normal of living without our angels in physical form. It just hurts so badly. Big hugs.

  2. Melissa says:

    I’m so sorry to hear about Lilly. 18-years is a gift, but still never long enough. If this helps you at all, last year I lost 3 of my fur kids last year and I truly wanted to die with them initially I was so devastated. Holiday I had for 17-years and she was my very first dog and my baby girl. She had cancer and then Baci was only 13 and such a gentle, loving dog and he died of congestive heart failure, and then Sebastian my big gentle giant cat was only 12 and he died of liver cancer. At first you tell yourself that you will never get another pet and that the pain is too much to ever endure again, but what I’ve learned is that the love goes on and sometimes you get lucky to get a comeback kid, or they help you find another fur kid that needs your love. The new pet never replaces them, you love each one different and help them in your previous fur kid’s honor. And it does help to heal your broken heart. I now have 2 new fur kids and a rescue. It really has made a difference for me and I’m no longer depressed. You will know when you’re ready again and I hope that it, too will bring you peace and happiness once more.
    In Sympathy,

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you so much for your kindness and understanding. I am so blessed to have had so many wonderful and healthy years. She was strong and thriving her entire life. Yes, there are always new pets to open our hearts to but I am currently at maximum capacity with a NO VACANCY sign in the yard…I have a houseful of rescues…and each is precious. Thank your for your kindness. Big hugs

  3. Joanne Burden says:

    Hi Karen,
    Thank you for your honesty, as I have been searching for this answer since Sofi passed. When I think of her, which is always- I know she is not in pain, and without the burden of her body. Then there are times that go in phases, when the pain is so strong like it was yesterday.
    Your message came at the perfect time, and I want to let you know how grateful I am to have read this message. It brings more peace to know that it’s “ok” to feel such a profound sadness missing their sweetness or knowing they are so close flying around free.
    I’m so appreciative to sweet Sofi for leading me to you- and so grateful to you for what you do for others.
    Love and Blessings,
    Joanne and Sofi in spirit

    • Karen Anderson says:

      I am so sorry, Joanne and so glad this timely message found you when you needed it the most. I don’t believe in coincidences so it was meant to be that we connected. May your sweet Sofi surround you with her loving energy and may you find peace. Big hugs

  4. Teresa Troy says:

    I am sorry for your loss of sweet Lilly. You gave my daughter a free reading when she lost her cat, Ollie, a year ago January. Thank you for sharing your sadness because it helps us see your authenticity and deep love for your pets, as well. Take care Karen!

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you so much, Teresa…I remember Ollie…such a sweet angel. My pain is deep and hurts just as much as everyone else. I am so grateful for your kind words. Big hugs.

  5. Gary J Ley says:

    My heart goes out to you Karen for your loss of Lilly. I’ve suffered loss in my life, but none compares to the loss of my boy Goldie 12 weeks ago. I’m a shadow off my former self, we were best buddies, he was my right hand man. Being a member of your group, and knowing that our fur babies live on, just in a different form, has saved me. Thinking of you and anyone who has lost a fur baby.

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you so much, Gary…it is so painful to lose someone like your Goldie. They take a piece of our hearts with them when it shatters. With gratitude xoxo

  6. KAY THOMAS says:

    Hello Karen, it is so strange that you have sent this email as I lost my beloved cat (child) also called Lily exactly a year ago (March 2nd). I have so much sympathy for you as I too had to have my Lily put to sleep and it was the hardest thing I have ever done and I am 74! I still cry and miss her so terribly.l am so so sorry for your loss and the raw pain you are going through. Love Kay (Wales, U. K) XX

    • Karen Anderson says:

      I am so very sorry for the loss of your angel, lily. We never get over their loss do we? Sending you peace and healing my dear friend xoxo

  7. Linda N. says:

    I am so sorry for the loss of your Lilly. I think it’s interesting that we both arrived at the name of ‘Lilly/Lily’ for our cats who look almost identical…so very pretty they both were.
    You’ve hit the nail on the head, Karen. The sharpness of the pain does soften over time. It’s been 3 years since my soulmate, my beloved Shady, left us and I can finally think of him a bit without instantly being reduced to tears. On the other hand, that pain is still too sharp to think too much of my beloved, Lily, so I keep her safely tucked away in my heart for now.
    You are in my thoughts, friend, and I share your sorrow.

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you so much. It hurts beyond words but you know with Shady we would do it over again in a heartbeat. With gratitude..and healing hugs

  8. Nancy Marchand says:

    Dear Karen,
    My heart is saddened for the pain you feel over the loss of your beloved cat, Lilly. From the loss of my pet duck (who would come and rest her head on my shoulder, when I sat on the backyard steps at the age of 4) to the loss of my sweet Paco in 2018, it hasn’t gotten any easier. The absence of such perfect love should never be easy. If it were, I’d be deeply disappointed in myself.
    I look forward to seeing them again, when my time arrives. Sometimes I catch a glimpse of a treasured pup or sense the weight pawprints crossing toward me on my bed…a gift to treasure…true friends “on loan from God”.
    May the sharp edges of Lilly’s loss turn more often to the happy times you two shared together.
    Blessings of love and healing prayers,

  9. Veronica says:

    Karen, have you spoken to Lilly beyond the grave?

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Of course, and she is amazingly balanced and peaceful. Grateful beyond words. She is my funny, crazy Lill.

  10. Karla LaVoie says:

    God bless you for this beautiful post I still weep over the losses, it doesn’t matter how long ago. I do as you said, remember the joy too. Much love to you and I am so sorry for your loss

  11. Kristie says:

    Dear Karen,
    I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved Lilly. My heart goes out to you during this painful time.
    Four months ago to the day I had to make the choice to help my beloved 19 year old cat, Jasper, transition to the other side. The grief and sorrow that I’ve felt every day since is overwhelming. There’s not a day that goes by that I don’t think of him. Jasper was my family. It was him and I for almost 20 years and I feel so lost without him.
    I want to thank you for what you do. I came across your name on the internet when I was researching dealing with the loss of a pet and I purchased ‘The Amazing Afterlife of Animals’. I have read your book twice and highlighted so many things that have brought me much comfort. I keep going back to those parts when I need some spiritual healing. I’ve been blessed in that I’ve had two dream visitations from Jasper and he has sent me many ladybugs and your writings in your book let me know what these events signified, that they were real and that I was not imagining them.
    Receiving your email today means more to me than you could know and again I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for being there for our pets and for us.
    Take care,

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you so much and I am so sorry for the loss of your angel, Jasper. They are family and they are our entire world. They are the best things in life and the hardest to say goodbye to. I’m so glad my book has brought answers to you and comfort to your heart. There are no coincidences in my opinion so someone very special must have guided you my way. Sending love and healing hugs.

  12. Angela says:

    You are most welcome Karen. Any few words that I can offer to make you feel more comforted is my pleasure. When I lost my beloved beagle 6 months ago, I read your book “The Amazing Afterlife of Animals” as one of my sources of grief-relief. I don’t know if I would have made it through those hazy days of grief if it were not for your book. So thank you very much.

    • Karen Anderson says:

      You are so kind, Angela, thank you for sharing that with me. It is such an honor to be a part of your journey. May each day soften your grief for the loss of your angel.

  13. Artemis Davitian-Derk says:

    Karen, I am so sorry for your loss of beautiful Lilly. You are right about how sharp and hard the pain is when you first lose a beloved pet.
    Also, right about how only time can help soften the intense feelings of loss, guilt and hurt.
    I’m coming up on 17 months since I lost my Beloved Sweet Pea and the feelings for me are still very intense. It’s a process for sure.

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you so much, Artemis, it is very hard and a painful and humbling reminder of what brought us all together. I am grateful for your kindness

  14. Teresa Steward says:

    Aww Karen. I am so, so sorry for your loss. Such a coincidence that my late girl was called Lily too. That last act of love hurts so much. It literally takes your breath away. I feel your pain and send you the biggest hug. I miss our girl so much. Rip your beautiful girl ❤️

    • Karen Anderson says:

      You are so sweet and I am sorry for the loss of your angel Lily too. Your kindness eases my pain…with gratitude

  15. Mary Collins says:

    I’m so sorry for your loss of Lilly Karen. Eighteen years together is a long time. Sending hugs and prayers for healing 💔💕🙏💐🌈🐾

  16. Heather Hackney says:

    Karen, I am so deeply sorry for the loss of your beautiful friend Lilly. She has such an angelic face.
    I found my grief, after helping my beautiful beloved BJ to the rainbow bridge February 22, 2017 1215 pm , hit me like a tidal wave with the occasional rogue wave over and over again and I literally felt like I was suffocating at times.
    You really nailed it when comparing the broken heart to shattered glass. Even when it is pieced together, it is never the same. There were and are times I wished I cold have made the journey with her. I found over time, spending a lot of time with my other dog and making sure she feels supported through this, and the resulting deepening of our bond has somewhat eased the pain but the pain will always be there. I’m sending you warm thoughts and hugs during this difficult time for you.
    💞💕Heather Hackney

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thanks so much, Heather, it is devastatingly painful to say goodbye no matter what the circumstances may be. Losing a loved one hurts. Yes, my heart is shattered..broken pieces that won’t ever fit back together again but I am better because of Lilly’s love. She is such an angel. With gratitude…

  17. Catherine S. Brown says:

    So sorry about your Lilly. I feel your pain. I lost my 16 yo big boy Thumper 3/10/20 and my 17 yo Dusty just last Saturday, 2/27/21. Very timely to see your email because you’re right, it hurt to help them to move along with all my other pets but I know in my heart it was the right and loving thing to do. I’m single and live alone…now really alone. Not seeing Dusty’s little face or hear her padding paws coming my way. I do try to think of all the great times we spent together over the past 16 and 17 years and not dwell on my loss and loneliness. I will get there.

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you so much, Catherine, and I am so sorry for all of your losses too. They take a piece of our hearts with them when they go. Our memories will be cherished forever. With gratitude

  18. Bobbie says:

    Karen: I am so sorry to hear of your loss of Lily. I, too read your book “The Amazing Afterlife of Animals” & I was hoping I would hear from my beloved Ridgeback, Koumba. So far nothing, I loved her so much and miss her every day. Whenever you open your communication sessions, I want you to contact Koumba. Thank you so much for the other times you contacted Koumba and the other kitties.

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you, Bobbie, I know that pain is still raw from the loss of Koumba. Some don’t feel the need to send signs because they are with you all the time. I will surround you both with love and healing prayers. Thank you for reaching out and your kindness is so appreciated

  19. Lesley says:

    I am so very sorry for the loss of your beloved LILLY. It most certainly never gets easier. Each of our precious babies hold a unique place in our hearts. What an absolute joy to have ever had them in our lives. That is what I cling to; knowing I would never change a moment with them despite the pain of their loss.

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you so much, Lesley, it never gets easier. I truly feel it gets harder to say goodbye. We are lucky to have these fur angels in our lives. With gratitude

  20. Denise says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. Having lost several babies of my own I know it never gets easier. My Dad used to come to my house with treats in his pocket and nobody could figure out why the animals loved him so much. Well, he finally got caught! When I miss my babies I picture my Dad in heaven with his treats in his pocket taking care of them.

  21. Patricia Goss says:

    Oh Karen what a beautiful kitty your Lilly was and she lived so long because you took such good care of her. It takes alot of emotional strength to be able to know when it’s time to make that decision to let them be at peace. Your heart is open for another sweet baby to love and be the beautiful caretaker of them while they are on loan to us from God .
    Another sweet Angel is waiting to see you and share another measured life with you.
    I’m sorry I know it hurts and your in my thoughts and prayers .
    What a beautiful name you gave her. “Lilly”.

  22. Shanna says:

    The only time my heart doesn’t hurt is when I clear my mind & just love my Sakura. YOU taught me this! I am so very grateful to you for it. She went missing a month ago. I don’t know if she’s alive or dead- this has been the most painful time of my life without a doubt. But YOU are amazing and your beautiful pets are SO incredibly blessed by you. What an amazing life Lily had on earth with you! I can only imagine… ✨
    Thank you for all the help you give to all- for being real and genuine. You make the world a better place. May God bless you & Lily, surrounding you both in His healing peace & light, now & forever.

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you for the kind words I appreciate you so much. I can’t imagine your pain not knowing where your angel is. Stay positive and hopeful and I will hold a sacred space for her safe return. God bless you

  23. Frank Grine says:

    So,so sorry for the loss of Lilly my friend,we only wish that our pets can live forever, but we know all too well that isn’t
    going to happen. Seems it does not matter how long they are with us, the pain is all the same. I had Captain for five years
    and Doobie for 14 1\2 years and the pain is the same, they both took a piece of my heart when they passed, I loved all my
    boys,including my boy Cash with all my heart and they will always have place in my heart and to be never forgotten, Again
    so sorry for your loss my friend

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you so much for your kind words. I know you are right there with me when it comes to our babies. We love them deeply and I am so grateful to you. Sending big hugs

  24. Diane Douglas says:

    Oh Karen! I am so sorry for the loss of Lilly! I wish I could help you the way you helped me with the loss of my Maltese angel baby Gracie 2-1/2 years ago. If I hadn’t found you, I don’t know what kind of shape I’d be in! Not only did she come in loud and clear, but she brought my whole family with her! And she showed you all around my house! I think about her every day, and talk to her every day as well! I’m so glad that Lilly has been with you since her passing and I’m sure that has comforted you as much as possible. You are such a wonderful person Karen… I feel so lucky to have found you!! I’m so sorry that you are so sad! Much love and prayers!!

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you so much for your kindness. I’m so glad you found me and that I have helped you on your journey. I remember my ‘tour’ of your home and even though we know on a higher level they are with us in spirit we still miss those cute faces so much. With gratitude and love

  25. Victoria Benton says:

    Boy do I understand! I just suddenly lost my little buddies cat furbaby who was the glue for the other two 10 days ago. I know he is in a great place but the thoughts of his absence off and on daily is a horrible feeling. You don’t know what to do with them and you surely can’t bring them back. I just found him in his little house, wham that was it. No clues nothing.
    He leaves a hole as no other as he was the big daddy o of everyone, pal, companion and friend and loved me to pieces too. He was a rescue.
    So I certainly empathize with you and your Lilly. The sorrow just gets a bit better as the days pass.
    I had brought the three of them out here to beautiful acreage and he was so proud and grateful for his home, his brothers and his porch. I am hugging you as I know the loss leaves us completely gutted and all we can do is let each day pass, one at a time. He will always be loved and forever missed.
    And yes I am 66 and these losses feel worse and worse with age. God Bless our babies for all the joy and love they gave us!

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thanks so much for reaching out to me. It hurts so deeply to lose our precious angels and they are such a gift. May you find peace and healing too for your loss. I hope you have my book, The Amazing Afterlife of Animals, to help you during this difficult time. Sending love and healing

  26. Laureta says:

    Im so sorry for your loss of Lily. My childhood dog was also named Prince. And I still remember to this day when I had to go and say goodbye to him. And now I’m facing the dreaded decision with one of my ferrets. She has lymphoma among other health issues and is not doing well. But I’m having an awful time as I don’t want to let her go. I know she will be with her brother and sisters but it’s heartbreaking. I do believe we will see each other one day. And thank you for your books they have really helped me after losing my pets.

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you for your kind words. Each one helps to ease the pain. It is so hard to make that decision. I call it The Impossible Decision. I’m so glad my books have helped you on your journey. I’ll hold a sacred space in my thoughts for you. Sending love and healing

  27. Jane says:

    How wonderful that you got 18 years of love with your beautiful Lilly. Similar to you, I recently lost my beloved cat and have been struggling with the loss as well. You and Lilly sound like you had a deep relationship and the sad irony in life is that if you love truly and deeply, then the grief is deep as well. While your grieve is profound now, please remember it’s because you’re a loving, caring person and that’s what makes you special and what Lilly loved about you.

    • Karen Anderson says:

      I am so grateful for your kindness and yes I feel so lucky to have had such an angel for so many years. My heart breaks for you as well and I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you have my book, The Amazing Afterlife of Animals, to help you on your journey as well. I’m sure your angel is wondering what all of your tears are about too but love is all that matters. Sending love and healing

  28. Ron Speer says:

    Hey Karen, RIP Lily… Both my wife and I cried understanding your words about Lily. We have also had losses in the last couple years that were greatly tempered with the wisdom of your books. Your reaching out to our (my) dog Maggie made a difference for us. They want us not to be sad, but joyous. Tough duty however.

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you so much for your kindness. Your words help ease the pain of my loss. Our human-ness is so opposite of them in spirit and we ache for them each day. Thank you for reaching out during this difficult time. Sending love and gratitude

  29. Karen says:

    Sending you hugs and heartfelt condolences. In 2007 I adopted two mixed lab sisters from a litter. The smaller black lab, Shiloh, was such a lovey one…always had a wet kiss for everyone. Last October they discovered a cancerous tumor and within a couple weeks I had to make that awful decision. Now, yesterday, I had to let her chocolate sister, Mia, make the crossing. So I am with you. The pain and heartbreak is devastating. I only have one of the original four dogs left now and she is 14 but doing well for now….the smallest dog and my baby, a poogle, Roxie.
    The vet assured me while I sobbed that I made the best decision for Mia out of love, not wishing her to suffer. And that is true but somehow that doesn’t soften those horribly sharp edges, at least not yet. Having communicated with Lilly I can only hope that offers you some tiny shred of comfort. We will always miss and long for their physical presence..😢😢💔💔

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thanks so much for the kindness. It is so painful to lose someone you love. Lilly is doing just fine in spirit and wondering what all my tears are about when she is so perfectly happy. With a deep sigh I move forward. Sending love and gratitude

  30. Rhian clark says:

    What a beautiful tribute to your beautiful Lilly, 18 years of unconditional love is a incredible gift to receive and I’ve no doubt the love and care from you aided that 18 years, I’m so deeply sorry for your loss and your pain I truly hope your heart heals soon ❤

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you so much for your kindness. She has been an amazing gift, a failed foster, whom I love dearly. Your words help ease my pain. Sending love

  31. Tammy Odom says:

    Karen, I’m so sorry for the loss of your beloved Lilly. That sadness is so painful and numbing. Sending love and comfort as you go through grief. If only I could do for you what you’ve given me with your pet communication group. God Bless.

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you so much for your kindness. It is numbing and devastating to lose someone you love. Blessings to you

  32. Andi Marwedel says:

    I’m so sorry for your loss, Karen. Lily sounds like an amazing little spirit!
    Timely post. I found myself a sobbing, tearful mess just a few days ago for Dexter, who died in August of 2019 after escaping the house we’d just moved into. All it took for the grief to resurface was a small thought that suddenly popped into my mind: Dexter was already with us that early morning when we were awakened by the call that he’d been hit by a car, was with us when we went to collect his body, was with us as we buried him and grieved. Where else would he be? He’s right here, waiting for us to go on our next, collective journey. He’s free of the confines a physical body creates. He wouldn’t have it any other way, except for our grief, which he’d change in a second if he could. These are comforting yet agonizing thoughts. Would I steal that freedom from him to have him here in a physical body? Perhaps. But perhaps I’ve grieved enough now to recognize and appreciate his freedom.
    Much love from me to all of you, to those of us who love these little spirits enough to grieve their loss.

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you so much for your kindness. I am so very sorry for your loss of your boy, Dexter. They truly take a piece of our hearts with them when they leave. I hope you have my book, The Amazing Afterlife of Animals to help you on your journey. Sending love and healing

  33. Karen W says:

    Nothing can compare to the loss you feel with losing a beloved pet whether you are blessed in their presence for many years or just a short time, they are all with us for reasons, I now understand this thanks to karen, I am struggling with the loss of my dear little angel whom I had to let go aged only 2 years, but no matter what I niw believe they are always with us, many condolences on your sadness at this time, Karen x

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you so much for your kind words as each one of them helps ease my pain. It is inexplicably devastating and I am so very sorry for your loss too. We do the best we can each day and know that love is all that matters. Sending love and healing to you

  34. Stella Woodfield says:

    Dear Karen,
    As you help all of us get through the loss of our beloved pets, you are not spared the same pain. The hardest part of living is loss. Knowing that Lily lives on is solace, but not now. . The shard glass sharp edges indeed need time to soften. May God help you through this very difficult period. Please accept my condolences.

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you so much, Stella and yes it still hurts me deeply when I lose one of mine. Thank you for your kindness as each of your words helps heal my broken heart. Sending love

  35. Valerie K says:

    Oh, Karen, I’m so sorry about Lily. You’ve had her the whole time we’ve known you!
    We unexpectedly lost KoKo (who we got after Katie) less than 4 years ago. She was only 11 years old. I’m so afraid that her death is the result of mistakes I made the day before she died. She went to bed that night with what I thought were her regular CT breathing issues and didn’t wake up the next morning. Bob is heartbroken and I am beyond devastated. The morning we found her I kept hearing her say, “No regrets, Mama. No regrets.” But it’s hard, you know? Thank God Bob doesn’t blame me but I blame myself enough for both of us.
    I am working on forgiving myself, but it will be a long slow road alongside the crushing grief. Thanks for this topic right now. It couldn’t be more timely. We’ll be in touch for a private session as soon as you open some back up. Kermit is wandering around missing his sister.
    Valerie (& Bob) K.

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you Val, so much. I am so sorry for the loss of KoKo. You are such a good momma to your babies, you should not blame yourself. We all do the best we can and take that forward into the next beloved pet. I’m sure KoKo does not blame you either. Give Bob and Kermit hugs from me. So glad this helped you. I think of you often and always with love.

  36. Lina says:

    Dear Karen,
    I try to find words to comfort your recent loss of your beloved Lily but I can not that the pain seems so much there is impossibly just said: I am sorry for your loss, your book and your email communication gives me the most comforted after I lost my beloved dog Mia last year, 4/19/2020, @ 12:17, am, which is my birthday, which
    A bunch of miracles has happened including… I saw a brown butterfly at her tomb where I bury her in my back yard, I wrap her with my favorite sheep vast and I made a cross has the words, “I love you forever” and accompany with my garden’s flower,and a letter I wrote how I missed her and loved her and thanks her was in my life 13 years made me the most happy mom because her, then I was able to collect her remaining fur put into a plastic bag, it is unbelievable her fur formatted itself into Mia’s body shape, from now on I still keep this fur bag at my pillow that I sleep with it every night, then, another miracle happened, I saw a gold 11 at our photo that this photo did not have the gold 11 light before, then I saw another miracle that in her memorial stone in her front right leg has another gold 11 Angel light, then, just about 10 days ago while my daughter and grand sons came over for dinner, my husband took photo of us, I saw a white figure above me is Mia, I have sent all these miracle photos to you and you told me, Lina, you should be so happy Mia loved you and she still with me, she do not want to go other places, Karen, when I lost my Dear Mia, I cry so much I loss so much weight, I can not went to work all I do is look her photos, touch her bed, and missed her terribly, I feel she took half of my life away, so you sent me message said, please stop crying that Mia’s soul will be so sad and it could stop her doing reconation back to me, I am not hurry to adopt any dog yet, I am waiting for a sign when she is ready back to me and I asked her give me strong sign that I can not missed it, Karen, I want to thank you so much, your book inspired the global pet loss people and I been Liam your book to at least 10 people so far include my neighbors, my friends, my co workers, when I went to Dr to withdrawal my blood, RN usually can not find my hiding vein, but I start pray to Mia please helping mama, then, with first attempt the RN able to found it that I believe your Lily become your guardian Angel that Lily loved you so much, she is with you every day, this love is just as God’s love, this is the most beautiful thing happened in life, we all love you and forgive me I can not use very fancy words or my grammar could have errors but I want to use my most loving heart write to you and you are the God sent, your Lily is with you forever and we just continue living with loving heart until we see them in heaven!!🙏❤️😍

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you so much for the kind words as each one helps me move through the pain. I am so very sorry for the loss of your beloved angel, Mia. There are few words to ease the pain but it sounds like your beautiful girl loves you so much. It warms my heart to know my book has helped you and thank you so much for gifting it to others who are struggling with a loss. We both have our guardian angels who love us so much. Thank you for sharing your experience and for your kindness. Every words helps me. Sending love and healing.

  37. candi says:

    Thank you for the analogy of loss and heartache from glass shard to softened sea glass. I just lost Knox, the last of my Golden Retrievers on Valentines Day. The silence is deafening and certainly is NOT golden.
    I am sorry for your loss as well. I am sure your care giving had a lot to do with Lily’s longevity!!! A feline gift indeed.

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you so much for the kindness. It helps ease the pain and I am grateful to you. I am so sorry for the loss of your special angel, Knox. The silence is quite painful, isn’t it? I hope you have my book, The Amazing Afterlife of Animals, to help you on your journey. The glass analogy just fit so perfectly. Thank you for reaching out. Sending love

  38. Darlene costantino says:

    So sorry for your loss of Lilly 💔😿 She looked a lot like my Stripers who I helped pass on 1/4/21 he would have been 18 in May 💔😿 I miss him they are all different 😢

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you so much for the kindness. I am so sorry for your recent loss of your angel, Stripers. It is so hard to lose someone you love. Sending love and healing

  39. Anna Phillips says:

    Karen- You are so correct. I’m so sorry about Lilly I’m sure she was an amazing Kitty and gave you so much love in her 18yrs with you. When I lost my Simba 12/29/2019 I truly lost a big piece of my heart. It’s funny how each animal is different. When I lost my dog back in 2008 it was heart breaking but not like my Simba. I truly believe he was/is my soul cat – It still hurts a lot but it is getting a little easier. I am blessed in still having his brother Nico and step brother Kilian. They are my family. That is when I found you and you were so kind to answer a couple of questions for me when Simba passed via email. You are an angel and I’m so happy I found you! Much peace and love to you always 🙂

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you so much for your kindness. Your words mean so much to me. I am so sorry you lost your angel, Simba and your dog, too. They are all so precious. May Nico and Killian bring you joy and happiness in the years to come. Thank you for being such a treasure and I have no doubt you were guided to me. Sending love

  40. Carol Worthington says:

    Hi Karen so sorry about your Lilly she sounds like she was a wonderful companion. It’s so difficult as humans when we bring these special animals into our lives knowing they (more than likely) will go before we do yet we do it willingly because they add so much fun,joy and unconditional love. We just helped our beloved Katie over to the other side on Monday. She was a 13 plus years old beautiful Old English Sheepdog that was more human than alot of people we know. She was a wonderful companion to my husband and me and loved us so much. She developed Canine Cognitive Disfunction last year along with some other things, but we were able to control it with medication and she was able to still have a pretty good life. But the last week she was having a harder time getting up, started choking after eating and drinking so we knew we had to help her on her way. Since then we haven’t been able to stop crying we miss her so much and our hearts are shattered like you described. Our comfort comes from how peacefully she passed and knowing she’s not going to struggle anymore. Our hardest thing now is how quiet our house is plus being sure she’s happy now and okay. Can you contact Katie and let us know she’s ok? We live in North Eastern Ohio. Hugs to you and I’m looking forward to reading your book.

    • Karen Anderson says:

      I am so sorry for the loss of your angel, Katie. I cannot imagine how much you miss her. It is devastating to lose someone you love. I’m sure she is with you right now as there is nowhere else she would rather be. After you read my book, you will realize that you do not need to worry one bit about her and that you do not need me to check in with her to see if she is okay. Your love is all that matters and all of your happy memories…and remember, those bonds of love never die. Sending love and healing

  41. Carol Worthington says:

    Karen thank you so much for your response and so quickly!!! I will be downloading the PDF version of your book from your website and have already read excerpts from it. You are very kind to reach out to a stranger with the exception being our bond with loving animals. If you ever reach Katie you will find out what a beautiful soul she was. Everybody loved her and she loved them back plus she had unbridled enthusiasm. You helped me feel better and you are a very kind person. Returning loving thoughts your way.

    • Karen Anderson says:

      It is my joy and honor to guide you during this difficult time. I will hold a sacred place in my heart for your beloved Katie…she is so lucky to have you as mom and dad and you are so lucky to have her in your heart. I hope you will opt-in as a VIP if you haven’t already so I can continue to provide ongoing love and support. Just click on the VIP BUTTON on my home page.
      Sending love…

  42. Amanda says:

    Big hugs for you for your loss of Lilly. I can relate to the deep sorrow you are experiencing. I had to lay to rest my Pug Reece 4 days ago. I’ve never experienced a loss like this. My son is heartbroken over the loss of his best friend. Reading your posts have helped me today and I’m glad I found you. I hope with time this pain will soften.

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you so much for your kindness as each word helps to ease that pain. My thoughts and prayers go out to you for the loss of your angel, Pug Reece. I can’t imagine how devastated all of you must be. It is so hard to lose someone you love so much. I hope you have my book, The Amazing Afterlife of Animals, and have opted in as a VIP on my HOME page for more loving support. Sending love and healing…

  43. Therese DeBlasio says:

    We lost our precious Chloe (13 year old Golden Retriever) on April 28, 2022. I spent every day, day in and day out for 71/2 years as I am on disability. She was the love of my life. I know it’s only a few days but I am devastated. How do I ease this pain. I’m waiting for a sign. Am I kidding myself?

    • Karen Anderson says:

      I am so sorry for your loss. It is devastating to lose someone you love so much. There is no way to erase the pain. You would have to erase the love and that just isn’t possible. You are in so much pain because you loved so deeply. It is a reflection of the bonds you share and the years you spent together. I hope you have copies of my books as they can help ease your journey through grief. Some find peace with professional therapists or counselors while others focus on helping other animals in need. Do what makes you feel better. Your sweet Chloe will want you to move forward and not linger in grief any longer than needed. I’m so glad you have opted into my VIP family so I can continue to provide you with the ongoing loving support you deserve. Sending love and healing

  44. Janie says:

    Karen, I’m so sorry for your loss of your sweet fur baby, Lilli. Your message touched my heart. I lost my sweet fur baby, Angel, today to heart disease & kidney failure. I can’t wrap my arms & heart around the fact that I’ll never see her follow me around the house, again. Angel was just that. It’s heartbreaking, but, my consolation is that she isn’t in any more pain. Godspeed, my sweet Angel! Godspeed to Lilli, too.

    • Karen Anderson says:

      Thank you so much for your kindness. Your words help to ease the pain. I also send my condolences to you for the loss of Angel. Perhaps they are frolicking together on the Other Side! Sending love and healing

      • Janie says:

        My pleasure, Karen. Thank you for your kind sentiments. Angel was my 20-year-old, Chihuahua-Poodle mix fur baby. The only cat she loved was our orange tabby, Andy, who passed away 10 years ago. I believe that they’re playing at a place this side of Heaven called Rainbow Bridge. Can fur babies send messages from the other side? I ask this because on Pandora, while I was in the kitchen (Angel’s favorite place), Anita Bakers’ song, Angel began playing & I began to cry 😭.

  45. Susie says:

    It doesn’t end, but I’m still waiting for the sharpness the ease. I lost my heart dog 7 years ago. I still cry. Now, I’m about to lose another heart dog, and I’m not sure I’ll survive another heart shattering loss. I have loved all my pets over the years, and mourned their passing, but the 2 dogs seemed to have touched my soul.

    • Karen Anderson says:

      I am so sorry for your loss. Even after seven years the pain is still there. It gets harder each time I lose one of mine. My deepest condolences. I hope you have my book, The Amazing Afterlife of Animals to help ease your pain. Sending love and healing.

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