Just the other day a client asked me, “Karen, when does the pain end?”
I thought about it for a moment and realized I did not have an answer.
The only thought that came to my mind was the word, “NEVER”.
After a loss, our hearts are completely broken.
Shattered into a million pieces like shards of glass.
Those shattered pieces have very sharp edges and sometimes the simple act of breathing is hard.
We are never the same as those shattered pieces don’t ever fit back together the way they were.
I thought about the first time I lost a beloved pet many decades ago.
I still feel the loss in my heart but the sharpness of the pain has softened over time.
Yes, I still miss my childhood dog, Prince. But now the memories of him joyfully flutter around in my mind and bring a smile to my face.
Compared to the grief I feel right now after just losing one of my senior kitties, Lilly, there is a huge difference in the level of pain.
Losing Lilly has shattered my heart once again.
I made the agonizing decision to help her transition peacefully before she was in crisis.
We spent almost 18 beautiful years together.
But will the pain ever end?
Just as the rhythmic waves of the ocean soften the sharp edges of glass in the sea, our souls gently soften the shattered pieces of our hearts over time.
I don’t know about you but the older I get the harder it is to say goodbye to my precious angels.
In honor of my crazy Lilly, I will hold you and your angels in a sacred space for healing.
We hurt so much because we love them so much.
But there is always the hope that your pain will soften over time.